Meaningful dialog changes outcomes. It can alter the message and the messenger. Often, we miss the openings and are too busy with our own agenda to hear the other person’s pain, challenge, or the exact message being conveyed because we are triggered (emotionally hijacked) by some part of what’s being said. My daughters were having… View Article
What’s your job? It’s a vocation, a way to make money, an expression of your identity, an extension of your talents, an inroad to community and a source of pride. It can be exhilarating, challenging, exhausting, exciting, fulfilling and excruciating. It can be a source of all things to fill your ego and maintain your… View Article
Who are you? Minus what you do, what you produce, minus your title; who are you? It’s a big question, can you be still enough to answer it? Will you remain quiet, uncomfortable, and open to all that floods into your brain like a freight train out of control to sit with the question? For… View Article
One of the requests I make at the workshops I lead is to “be willing to receive as much as you give.” Believe it or not, this is a challenge for many leaders. Are you a good receiver? When people compliment you, do you immediately reciprocate with a compliment back out of habit, obligation or… View Article
I was connecting with a friend and colleague and during our discussion offered some feedback. I shared I hadn’t wanted to burden her with a request as she seemed busy because she hadn’t responded to prior emails. She seemed taken aback and apologized, not wanting to project that image. I could totally relate. When I’m… View Article
There’s nothing solid that will come of “squishy” commitments. When I’m working with EOS (Entrepreneurial Operating System) leadership teams, we spend a great deal of time working on concrete language and it becomes a superpower once you learn it. The world at large is “squishy.” What I mean by that is it is more common… View Article
If you’re busy over-discussing an issue, concern, or complaint, often the simplest question to ask is: “What do you want?” When you can answer the question honestly, it prompts two things – answers and actions. Often, when I’m facilitating sessions with teams and it’s time to solve issues, they drift off into an explanation of… View Article
You owe yourself one hour a day of self-maintenance. It can include reading, writing, yoga, exercise, dancing, meditation, painting, or whatever, but you owe it to yourself. One hour, 1/24 of your day. That’s less than 5%. It matters, it really does. Make it count. At one point in my life, I read this and yet… View Article
Extending grace offers new pathways. When you can remain curious during challenging times keeping an open mind and an open heart, a new space for trust emerges. The world is not either/or. The mindset necessary to traverse great divides in opinion, perspective and beliefs is a tricky balance of suspending what you believe long enough… View Article
When things are challenging, do you dwell on them? Me too. At least some of the time. What can you do to reframe your thinking? You can begin by taking responsibility. Reframing your thinking is exactly that – owning the thoughts as your own, not the truth. Your experience in the world is only a… View Article
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