October 28, 2021 5:23 am Published by

This Is the Path Forward #704 

Josh Radner, Ted Mosby in How I Met Your Mother, said “If we learned from suffering, wouldn’t the world be enlightened by now?” 

When I dwell on the problem, my world follows.  

What was “one of those days” at home has become a standing joke we use often. For anyone who knows my husband Kevin, you know he’s one of the smartest, easiest people to be with. I’m fortunate because I don’t know that anyone would say that about me! 

On the day mentioned above, I was crabby. In fact, I had no real situation or event, I was just crabby. I let Kevin know early in the day so he was able to buffer himself from my side eyes, sighs and indirect motions signaling my irritation with anything and everything. 

As he worked so sweetly near me, he was doing his best to help and make the day easier in many ways – even that bugged me. I made some gesture sharing my crabbiness, I don’t even remember what it was. I was “trying” to work myself over and be better, it just wasn’t working. 

Sensing his kindness wasn’t helping, he did the best thing ever. He was lighthearted and curious asking me “on a scale of 1 to 10, how bad am I bugging you right now?” 

That was it! We erupted in laughter. It was so funny, well timed, and accurate we laughed until we cried. 

I was in a great mood for the remainder of the day, crabbiness over.  

Might we all have the presence of mind to take nothing personally and love each other through the rough patches.  

This is the path forward. Thank you, Kevin, for showing me the way when I was off-roading.