We endorse what we tolerate. When you complain about another person’s behavior (or your own) and it becomes a recurring message over time, pay attention. Clearly, it can’t be too bad or you would do something about it. Have you: Asked the person about what’s occurring to learn more and shift your worldview about it?… View Article
In a group setting, how do you feel when someone is having a sidebar conversation with another person as you or someone else is talking to the group? It doesn’t feel good. It’s annoying, irritating, disrespectful, distracting, rude, and selfish. For the most part, we don’t think it’s a big deal when we’re the ones… View Article
There’s nothing solid that will come of “squishy” commitments. When I’m working with EOS (Entrepreneurial Operating System) leadership teams, we spend a great deal of time working on concrete language and it becomes a superpower once you learn it. The world at large is “squishy.” What I mean by that is it’s more common to… View Article
Listening. It’s the most impactful skill you can become masterful at. My husband Kevin and I want to purchase a sound system for our home. Music is really important to us. We enjoy it together and use it to set the ambiance for events, to motivate us through work, or relax our moods as we… View Article
“Most serious mistakes are not being made as a result of wrong answers. The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong question.” Peter Drucker When people start to work through issues, they often tell stories, give examples, and rehash events and conversations. Rarely do they slow down, take time to think, and pause long enough… View Article
Practice makes perfect. Have you heard the phrase? Of course you have… and it’s wrong. Practice makes permanent. You need a coach, mentor, advisor, leader, or friend who will help you see what you’re repeatedly doing (often unconsciously) so you can correct the habits that are in the way of your success. It’s likely you’ve… View Article
Rainy day notes. They’re a real thing if you’ve ever worked with me. What are they? They are little acknowledgments you do with groups you work with, share life with; the people you call friends, colleagues, or family. They’re simple, kind, and one of the best tools you can use if you’re having a “rainy… View Article
I’ve long said, “success can be a learning disability.” Why? Because for leaders, the curse of complacency can set in. You’ve worked hard and fought your way to the win. You’ve challenged yourself and your team to reach success, the goal has been met and now you are tired. This happens when your team and… View Article
Your psyche will tell you what fits. Part gut, part intellect, and part experience, these things inform our bodies what to feel. When I’m prepping for speaking, a workshop or session, I’m happy to work long hours. I look forward to creating value, and the work strangely doesn’t feel like work. Shorten that presentation to… View Article
Being a beginner is a blast when you let yourself be just that: a beginner. If you read blog 269, you know I’m learning to play drums. When I was a kid, it was a chore to practice. I had a flute and I didn’t want to learn how to play it, but I did…. View Article
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