Communication is more art than science. And when you dissect the nuances of how we all communicate, it’s no wonder there are rough intersections, touchy moments, and challenges between us. Here are four scenarios to consider: When a question is asked of a more analytical person, there is a noticeable and predictable silence that follows. Don’t fill it. Stop talking. Don’t re-ask the question another way. When… View Article
Have you ever noticed that when you put off challenging conversations you suffer? One of the best principles I live my life by is to handle things promptly when they go wrong. Whether it’s family, work partners, teammates, employees, friends, or the service professionals you encounter in life, the rule of thumb is 24 hours. Whether it’s good news or corrective feedback, don’t wait. When… View Article
“Hard is not the end, it’s just hard.” This is a quote from a parent when his daughter was struggling in every way in her life. What a powerful statement. If you rely on feelings, hard is an end. It’s the end of an interpretation, the end of a way of being in the world that isn’t serving you, the end… View Article
Are you becoming the person you want to become? The narrative around becoming the best version of yourself is ample these days. How do you get about it? It’s not a series of tactics changing behavior temporarily that empowers this. You won’t read, listen, or watch the secrets to becoming whatever that is for you. Sure, you have to do some introspection and realignment… View Article
Let go. Looking at what’s between today and tomorrow can make us feel like we have a deficit. We don’t – it’s perceived lack based on what’s possible and that’s a big thing. Looking at what’s between today and our past can make us feel like we’re winning. A healthy balance of both is necessary to keep the equilibrium for a healthy attitude. Sorting out our priorities is a necessity right… View Article
Worry doesn’t work. Even when the world doesn’t make sense, when you’d like to change everything about the circumstances and conditions surrounding you, and things feel out of control. Worry is a result of catastrophizing what could be but isn’t. It’s a result of your mind running rampant with all the possibilities for negative outcomes in the future. Could they happen? Sure. Will they happen? NO one knows. … View Article
“One day you will tell your story of how you’ve overcome what you’re going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.” – Anonymous When you think of your life and legacy, do you realize you are being observed? As a leader, you must realize you are always being observed. Whether you’re aware of it… View Article
It’s hard to wait when you have a need. If you’re impatient like me, you don’t enjoy waiting anyway, and to be patient while doing so – especially when you have a need – is challenging. Set the bar high and let yourself embrace the journey. Excellence is worth it. The question becomes: What’s the price of settling? What’s it worth to wait and do it well once? Though it’s tempting,… View Article
When things are challenging, many of us get stalled at starting and proceed to feel bad. Once we feel bad, we justify our inaction by creating stories, rationalizations, excuses, and justifications thinking our feelings are reason enough to remain stuck. We do other things, deprioritize the “big” thing we need to do that might be new, different, larger… View Article
Teamwork. It’s so rare it’s like a superpower. With every team I coach, we define and deepen core values. Every team has one about teamwork. Every single one. Perhaps it’s because inherently we know we can do what I can’t. Perhaps it’s because we know we are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with – you know the adage that says… View Article