September 9, 2020 10:28 am Published by

2020 keeps pushing us, it is a year of change and discomfort. Change and discomfort provide the perfect environment for learning. Learning is where we can get better and wiser…if we choose to. 

I have talked about staying focused on the intersection of the things that matter and the things you can control (blog #344). Let’s dissect this a bit, because every so often (hourly sometimes), this year has felt out of control, don’t you think? 

Here’s a circular list of things you can control – no matter what is happening. Check in frequently to see where you need an adjustment, then move to another step, it’s an endless loop: 

  1. Your attitude. I know it sounds cliché, but your attitude determines how you perceive and receive everything. Hope and action spring from gratitude – find some every day (see #7). 

  1. Your thoughts. Your thoughts lead to feelings. YOU have the power to change them, and you can’t let them flood through you uncontrollably, you must be the governor to your own thinking.  

  1. Your physical well-being. Whatever you define as healthy and supportive, nurture this. Too many of us don’t pay enough attention to our well-being and only react when things aren’t work. It’s too late then – put on your oxygen mask first. (see Chasing Perfection for this) 

  1. Who you surround yourself with consistently. Are they people who move you forward? You’re in charge of who you spend your time with consistently. It’s okay to shrink your circle if needed. 

  1. The bad roommate in your head. If you wouldn’t talk to anyone else the way you’re “talking” to yourself, stop it. You don’t need the abuse. Invite that roommate to change their tune or relocate. (See #7) 

  1. How you treat others. Pay attention. We are one race: the human race. Care and kindness are called for. Love always wins. 

  1. Gratitude. A recipe for daily peace and abundance. Without it, fear and scarcity take over. Write down what you’re grateful for daily. (see #1) 

  1. How you spend your money. It’s a reflection of your beliefs and supports those who will survive the challenges we’re facing economically. Let your dollars do your talking

  1. Asking for help. You’re not alone, and like many of us, you may not be comfortable asking for help. No one does anything alone, you’ll need to ask for help to make it. Check on your “strong” friends. 

  1. Trying once again. You can rest, but don’t quit. Quitting means never again. Are you really done? (see all the other steps) 

  1. Your daily habits. Are they serving you? Take an hour to evaluate. Write down what’s working and not working. What do you need? (see #9, then 1-11 all over again)