Feedback is like a mirror that reflects how others perceive us, but it’s not always a true reflection of who we are. Imagine yourself as a beautiful mosaic made up of unique pieces. Each piece represents your strengths, talents, and potential. Now, imagine feedback as a spotlight shining on certain parts of your mosaic. Sometimes, the spotlight highlights your… View Article
When someone complains, what’s really happening? When we complain it’s because we had different expectations in mind. If you can pause to think, you’ll realize every complaint is a veiled request. When we’re unable to reframe our irritation into a request, we comment about what’s wrong, missing, or shouldn’t be happening the way it is now. It’s easy to roll our eyes or get frustrated and defensive when faced with a complaint, but what could we learn… View Article
When things get chaotic and seem to be out of control, disorganized, or out of sorts, it’s easy for overwhelm to be the result. When this happens, we must rely on structure and process to bring us back to a focused and organized world. One step at a time, we must look at our world from a 10,000 foot view and then zero in… View Article
Focus. We sometimes talk about it like a talent we can call upon at will or an elixir we can consume. Sometimes it feels like you’re right on track, incredibly focused. There’s a flow and ease with all you’re doing. Then, there are the other times. The times when you feel scattered, overwhelmed, anxious, or distracted. It feels more productive to be focused, and if you, like me, have an orientation… View Article
I like to plan and be efficient. When I look at my actions and patterns, I’m driven to consistently improve and simplify those things I repeatedly do. When Kevin and I travel, we plan things and enjoy our time together regardless. Yet, when I reflect on the most memorable, vibrant and enjoyable times in my life, they were almost always spontaneous. We wake up with no intended plans, begin with… View Article
Do you really need to learn new things? I was in a conversation with some people hiring us to present a keynote in a few months and they told me they’d heard all they needed to about one of our topics. We suggested another topic and they said they’d heard that as well. After more discussion, I suggested they may need a different speaker. They didn’t want… View Article
Say exactly what you mean. There’s a concept! It’s very non-Midwestern. You won’t always be popular or please people, but you will be clear. You’ll also find the world around you (people, opportunities, events and rewards) will amplify. Too often, when trying to please others or deliver the message you think others want to hear instead of saying exactly what you mean in a kind… View Article
I’m asking myself a question these days which moves me in much more certain directions. It’s become the mantra I need at this time in my life and in business. The question is clarifying. It helps me say “no” much more confidently. Saying no has created space and confidence as more and more situations are calling for my attention. … View Article
Planning. It’s not everyone’s priority or gift. Yet, it helps to create the best results most of the time. Notice I didn’t say a “plan?” When you get to wed to the plan, you will fail every time. Plans are rigid; they assume all the circumstances and factors influencing what will happen are known. That’s NEVER possible. Even when you’ve done something a thousand times. … View Article
The signs are there. Can you see them? When you’re present, it’s like entering the Matrix. Everything slows down. The pieces of the puzzle emerge and assemble themselves into a new, vibrant picture of what’s possible. The picture isn’t accessible without letting go of where you are. It means leaving what’s comfortable, predictable, and has served you to arrive at the next version of you. Success can be a… View Article